A Cadet’s Perspective: Why Did I Do That?

by Blake Gorman ’13, Eagle Columnist

GormanHumans are not perfect. MMA cadets certainly aren’t perfect.  Everyone makes that one decision that they regret for the rest of their lives but I like to think that an individual is “not defined by the bad decisions that he makes but by how he reacts after that bad decision,” as CPT Reynolds would put it. People have the freedom to make choices – whether those choices are bad or good. There will always be that moment when we will have the freedom to do the right or wrong thing when no one is watching.

My grandfather always tells me, “The people that put you down now will eventually be the ones that will work for you.” I always lived by that and used it as my motivation, now more than ever.

Pride is what fuels an individual to become successful but it is always the one thing that can poison an individual’s mind and ruin them. I believe that this is exactly what happened to me when I made a recent mistake. I tend to fix it by accepting, facing, and suffering my consequences for my actions. Then I will redeem myself and prove to everyone that I have changed with the amount of time that I have until the school year ends. Time is merely of an essence for me.

Whenever someone makes a terrible decision, it can affect them for the rest of their lives. They will regret it for the rest of their lives.  This is what will definitely define an individual’s will and perseverance. They can either live in a life time in a slump or they can try to find a solution to fixing their mistake and learn something from that mistake. We all have that free will to make good or bad choices. We usually think of this as a good thing but sometimes we take advantage of that privilege and that free will can easily turn into a curse, haunting us for the rest of our lives. But there is always a way to fix our mistakes and learn, even if it takes a lifetime to fix it.In general, people that make bad decisions generally don’t think of the long term effect of that decision. For example, when someone eats a fast food cheese burger they generally don’t think about what that cheeseburger will do to their body later that day. Instead they are thinking of the quick and delicious taste that is satisfying their hunger. Then later that day they may regret that decision after feeling the side effects of the burger.

When an individual is put in a tough situation instead of just acting on it simultaneously, they need to stop and think. One problem that I have is that I don’t think of what the consequences will be I think of ways to avoid those consequences. The only way to be 100% sure that anyone won’t face the consequences from bad decisions is by not making them in the first place. Think about what will happen when you make that decision and all the possible things that can happen and if one of the possibilities is you ending up suffering then don’t make that decision. The best thing to do when faced with a bad decision is to just walk away.

Major mistakes could never be undone and this is when you officially regret making that decision for the rest of your life. The only thing you can do at this point is reflect on it. People who make these types of bad decisions were most likely undergoing something called an “emotional hijacking,” when emotions take over someone and they act before they think.

MMA has given me better judgment during my time here, but nobody is perfect.  As human beings we all have our flaws. But try not to make that same mistake twice and put yourself in a precarious situation.

Blake Gorman is a senior cadet from Wentzville, Mo.  He will attend North Georgia College and State University in Dahlonega, Ga.